Hello babes! Stacy here, back again for another Wedding Wednesday! I got a TON of questions during and after our wedding on how to pick the perfect mismatched bridesmaid dresses. So I figured I’d take this opportunity to give you guys all my tips, tricks and advice for picking the perfect array of mismatched bridesmaid dresses!
If you haven’t checked out our wedding story here, I urge you to read it because it will restore your faith in humanity! But if you just came here for advice on how to pick mismatched bridesmaid dresses that remain cohesive to your wedding “vision”, then let me just jump right into it for ya!
HOW TO CHOOSE THE PERFECT MISMATCHED BRIDESMAID DRESSES
Choose Your Dress First
Choose your dress first! Seems rather straight forward, and I’m sure you’re probably thinking it’s not THAT big of a deal. But, I urge you to pick your dress first and foremost in case you end up choosing something completely different than you imagined yourself in. For example, let’s say you’ve pinned every single mermaid gown with one strap and a beaded bodice on Pinterest. So you set out to find mismatched bridesmaid dresses that are a-line in shape, mostly chiffon and you avoid one strap dresses for your girls altogether because you want to be the only one in that style. But then, you actually go to try on wedding dresses and you fall in love with the way the a-line shape fits your body and gives off the romantic vibes you envisioned for your special day. You begin to cry as you realize it has a chiffon skirt and is strapless which is EXACTLY the style you put your bridesmaids in!!! EEK! Haha See what I mean? Pick your dress first.
Choose Your Color Palette
This is the most important step (aside from choosing your dress first), and absolutely MUST come next. If you don’t first do this you run the risk of letting your bridal party run amok and choose colors they prefer, rather than colors that fit within your personal vision. Think first about your overall wedding, the season, the venue, the flowers, table settings, and your dress. What colors fit into your overall color scheme? I suggest making a mood board! This can be a physical board, a Pinterest board, or one in the computer- which is how I did mine. (I’ll share my mood boards in another post where I’ll talk all about planning your wedding)! Next, ask your future hubby what he wants to wear! Kyle was going back and forth between wearing a deep maroon tux and a navy blue suit, so I knew I couldn’t put my girls in those colors (he’s almost as indecisive as me! Haha). After you consult with bae, decide exactly what color(s) you want your mismatched bridesmaids’ dresses to be. A few examples:
– All one color, different hues (Robbins egg blue, baby blue, teal blue, navy blue).
– An assortment of similar colors (baby pink, red, maroon, rose gold).
– Different metals (silver, gold, rose gold, platinum, gunmetal).
The other route you can go is to choose one color and have the girls all wear a different style. Any bridal store can help you with this; many of the basic chiffon dresses are available in tons of colors and styles. So someone could have strapless, another might have one strap, one might be off the shoulders and another a halter neck style.
*Pro Tip: Stick with the same length when selecting mismatched bridesmaid dresses. It helps with creating an overall cohesiveness.
Be Very Specific
Once you’ve decided on the color palette save examples on your phone to text or email the girls so they have them. Nail down any other rules you want to follow when selecting the mismatched dresses. This can be anything from “I don’t want anyone wearing lace because I will be adorned with head to toe delicate vintage lace” to “I want everyone to have some element of beading” (which is what I did) to “I want to add a black waist sash to every dress” etc. Be honest with yourself (and your girls) and if you don’t want someone in a plunging neckline, sleeves, or a cocktail dress then make sure to communicate that upfront.
Decide Who’s Picking Out the Dresses
You can either go by yourself, with some of your bridal party, or everyone and their mother to pick out dresses. Or you can give your girls the very specific guidelines you drew up in the last step and let them run free into the world of retail and online shopping to choose their own perfect mismatched bridesmaid dresses! We chose the latter, frankly because they only had a month to pick them out (more on that here), but also because it allowed them to find a dress they actually liked within their own personal budget. We started a group text message, and I told them all it was “first come first served”, so that if two girls liked the same dress, whoever got it first and told the group got to wear it.
This step is obviously easier in person, or maybe harder if you’re afraid to tell your friends you don’t like something to their faces…haha but it is a MUST when choosing mismatched dresses. Please don’t be rude (no Bridezillas allowed), but be honest if a dress someone tries on doesn’t fit your vision! If you are letting your girls pick their own dresses, a really awesome way to over-communicate and keep everyone dress-accountable is to create a group text like I did with all your bridesmaids. This worked great for us, especially since I spent most of my time in Michigan, three girls lived in Chicago, one in Iowa and one in Texas! All the girls texted pictures from the fitting room or of dresses they ordered online. It gave everyone the chance to see each other’s so that no one ended up with the same dress and it gave me the opportunity to virtually “yay” or “nay” their dress choices.
*Pro Tip: I saved all of the pictures of my girls’ trying on their dresses and then spliced them together to see how they looked. I even spliced in a picture of my own dress to make sure we would look cohesive even though they were all mismatched.
Pick Flower Girl Dresses Last
This is solely based on the fact that I believe they have more options! You can find TONS obviously at bridal stores, but also online. The best part is that if you can’t find exactly what you’re looking for, you can get custom made dresses on Etsy and they are ADORABLE. Much cheaper than custom made bridesmaids or wedding dresses! I bought my flower girls their dresses off of Amazon. (If you know me you know I am slightly addicted to Amazon and am a long time Prime user haha). I love how they looked with all of us and I was quite surprised by the quality!
So there you have it, my tips on how to pick the perfect mismatched bridesmaid dresses! Leave a comment below if you have any additional advice for brides-to-be! Or leave me a link of your mismatched bridesmaids dresses- I’d love to see!